HARD NEWS REPORTED ON JANUARY 21 2010 (SEXUAL HYPOCRISY OF MALAYALIS): "Noted Malayalam writer Paul Zacharia's recent opinion that Kerala is a sex starved society raised criticism from various quarters. Zacharia, in an article in a Malayalam literary weekly, Kalakaumudi, commented on the surveillance inclination of Keralites. The comment was based on the recent incident where a Congress leader in Kerala was caught by CPM activists, with a woman. Reacting to this Zacharia criticised the media in Kerala as nothing but 'mediocre', trying to ignite publicity by portraying any sexually alluding instances involving women. Zacharia told Hardnews, "The sexual hypocrisy of Malayali grows in consonance with the growth of religious and political organisations." He mentioned that this sexual hypocrisy is a result of missionary education and the transplantation of Protestant and Catholic Christianity. He added that modernity brought the end of sexual hypocrisy all across the world but in Kerala where it still flourishes. "The reason is that Kerala has been taken over by feudal inclinations," he said. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . "Do MALAYALEE people from kerala have sex for pleasure with their married partners? pleeeeeeeeeeeeeeease answer?" This question was recently raised at Yahoo! Answers, by a concerned guy who is about to marry a Malayalam girl. He was no doubt wondering what kind of action he would get after wedding day. As if to reassure him, a particular Zam Zam replied: "Malayalam girls are similar human beings as other ones. Only their sex appetites are a little more than other girls. So, naturally, they like more sexual pleasure than other girls. They have a lot of sex & afterwards do overfeeding which make them fat & stout making their bodies incompatible for sex after 5 - 10 years but control on weight & fitness regularly can prevent that problem too. Scientific surveys show that hottest girls are black African(so called negro) girls & next ones are Keralite (Malayali) ones. There is no other different thing..." . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . I don't know what scientific studies Zam Zam was referring to. Well known Mizoram gospel singer Bethsy Lalrinsangi has pledged to remain a virgin till she ties the knot with the right man. As a man about to be married, I appreciate her devotion to her future man. I wish more women were like her. "On Sunday, Radzi said Bangladeshi men look like Indian movie stars. "Most of the men, aged between 25 and 30, were recorded as studying English, he said. "'This is really fishy. The age bracket is suitable for employment. Bangladesh is an English-speaking country and it makes little sense for them to study English here,' Radzi was quoted as saying. 'The abuse is glaring because Bangladeshis are not allowed to work here, but we can see hundreds working in construction sites and restaurants.' "Radzi said most were brought by agents who made deals with colleges to bring in the workers as students, then place them for employment. "He said his ministry was taking the necessary action to curb the practice. 'I can assure you there are thousands of them. Of course, Malaysia is striving to be an education hub but abuse of provisions is something that cannot he tolerated," he said... . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . As all folks should be aware, the Bengali people are a divided people -- one of the victims of Partition. Like the Bataks of Indonesia, the Bengalis are a race of two faiths -- in their case, Hinduism and Islam. Partition split the Bengalis into two nations: Muslim Bangladesh and Hindu India (West Bengal State). There are also considerable number of Bengalis in Burma (the Rohingya people) and the Gulf States (notably Saudi Arabia). Speaking of the Rohingya people of Burma, The Cutting Edge News reported: "The Rohingya people are ethnically and culturally closely related to the Bengali people in the area surrounding Chittagong, but have lived in Burma for generations. While their precise history may be debated, there is no doubt that they are not newcomers to the country. Yet unlike all the other ethnic groups in Burma, which although severely persecuted by the regime are at least recognised as citizens, the Rohingyas are regarded as 'temporary residents' and denied full citizenship status. They are required to obtain permission before marrying, and a permit can take several years to secure. Movement is severely restricted ERohingyas must obtain permission to travel even from one village to another, impeding access to medical care and education. As 'non-citizens', Rohingyas cannot be employed as teachers, nurses, civil servants or in any public service, and in Rohingya areas teachers, mostly from the Buddhist Rakhine ethnic group, sometimes fail to turn up for an entire year, disrupting educational opportunities for the Rohingyas. Rape and forced labour are widespread, and Rohingyas are singled out by the authorities for extortion. Indu Thampy..."

m e e t i n g - m a l a y a l a m - g i r l s - o n l i n e "NEW INDIAN EXPRESS CLASSIFIEDS ARE THE BEST PLACE TO MEET MALAYALAM FEMALES," WRITES THEQAVISH AT WORLD VILLAGE. "You can find a bride or wife here. There are more brides looking for grooms than the other way. Here is where you can find the classified ads of this newspaper: www.expressclassifieds.in. Look through the matrimony section and you will find your Mallu girl for love..." It is true that there are more brides looking for grooms at Express Classifieds India than grooms looking for brides, and this is unusual in the online dating/connection scene. It stands in stark contrast to other parts of India, where women are not only in shortage online... they are in shortage offline as well. The Telegraph from Calcutta reports: "Facing a shortage of brides, a female foeticide belt has turned to a neighbouring state with the highest sex ratio and best social indicators in India. "The increasing marriages between women from Kerala and desperate Gounder-caste grooms from Tamil Nadu's western Namakkal district has been welcomed by Namakkal collector U. Sagayam..." Namakkal men are enlisting the help of brokers to find them brides in Kerala's Palghat. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . Bandhan Matrimony Search: Pentecost Malayalam Brides. There are said to be 40 lac matrimony profiles on Bandhan, from all over India and beyond. The last time I checked in, there were 759 matrimony profiles for Pentecost Malayalam brides aged 23 to 29. There are women from Changanassery (Kerala), Port Blair (Andaman and Nicobar), Sarni (Madhya Pradesh), Pimpri Chinchwad (Maharashtra), Tampa (Florida) and Abu Dhabi (UAE). If you are looking for Catholic brides who have studied Commerce, click here. If you are looking for a Nair Hindu female doctor to be your partner in life, there are nearly 1000 profiles here. As well as Hindus and Christians, there is a considerable number of Muslims in Kerala. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . I am from West Bengal (KRISHNAGAR , Nadia). My cell number is 9903578623." S. Mukherjee describes himself as: "31 Years ..fair..tall..hansome..Ph.D. in econ...working as Sr. Scientific Officer in Intl. reserach Inst at Hyderabad....looking for Bengali brahmin girl Age (<25) ..willing to settle out of Kolkata ....sincere...educated (at least graduate) ..soothing personality..." . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . Bengali Sexy Girls: Priyo. "Back with some sexy photos. looks like, this forum is getting very attractive. please, allow us to post more. we need some place. please...." . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . Bharat Student: Malayalam News, Gossips, Etc. Connecting young Indians worldwide is the motto here. Listed on this website are the latest Bengali Singles, from Bangladeshi Singles within driving distance of Bangladesh looking to chat with you." Features include personal media gallery (audio, video, photo albums, etc), personal blog, friends list, guestbook, ShoutBox, block member capability, and Messenger with storage system. Membership is free. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . E-Juty: E-Juty. Said to be a good place to meet Bengali babes. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . Jojajog: Bengali Matrimonial Service Managed by Bengali People. Coming at you from Kolkata -- "As a Bengali we understand the culture, taste and other pure bengali factors which is very essential for successful matchmaking," the site claims. Membership costs Rs. 1250 for a six month package. You can find plenty of prospective Bengali brides and grooms here. Writes one woman on her spiel: "Am a Slim, pretty,homely Brahmin girl of 28 years living in my maternal uncle's home in Kolkata. My hometown is Rampurhat, where my parents live. "My father is a retired employee of W.B.State Electricity Board. My elder maternal uncle was the Departmental Head of Indian Institute of the Cultivation of Sciences. My youngest uncle was the Media director of renowned advertising Agency. My mother is a housewife. "I love reading and i am trained in Classical Dance. My horoscope details: Dhanu Rashi, Mithun Lagna, Debari Gon, Batsya Gotra..." . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . Kama Connections: Connecting South Asians. The website claims to be: "The leading online dating, relationship and matchmaking site for Bengali singles in the US, UK, Canada, Germany, Australia, Dubai. Meet Bengalis looking for love, dating, marriage, matrimonial and friendship. Bengali professionals online with MBA degrees and working professionals such as doctors, engineers, dentists, Phds, computer scientist, managers, investment bankers, traders, businessmen. Here you can see some of the latest Bengali singles available all over the world and in cities like London, Birmingham, Glasgow, Southall, Los Angeles, New York, Chicago, Atlanta, Houston, Toronto, Montreal, Vancouver. Search our photo profiles and rate these Bengali singles." . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . Mate 4 All: Dating Kolkata. The last time I checked there were 3931 entries for people looking for a date in Kolkata. The entries are listed according to age, occupation, star sign (Capricorn, Gemini, Libra, Scorpio), occupation (MBA student, graduate engineer, IT manager, marketing professional, etc.) Wrote abhikmitra (a Hindu): "I am ordinary person, love life, very hard working, loves to spend long hours over phone, love music in the middle of the night, love the rain drops, love the flowing river, love the mountains in winter, love long drive..." . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . Single Muslim: Bengali Dating Sites. Claims to be the world's leading Muslim introduction agency. According to testimonials, the site has hooked up numerous Bengali people from all over the world (Jakarta, Iran, Lancashire, you name it.) Mohammed from Kuwait wrote: "I signed up on SM and contacted only 1 single profile. We had our first communication on 9 Nov '08 and within few days the proposals were taken formally. On 22 Dec '08 we got married. Our families are happy & satisfied on this relationship." Medina from London wrote: "Assalamoualaikoum, Jazzaak Allah khair, Alhmdullilah, I've met somebody on this site just after 5 days of registering.. We're getting on well Alhamdullilah, InshaAllah we're planning to get married soon after new year. Thank you all very much, Keep up all the good job. May Allah bless u all brothers and sisters..." . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . Quikr: Divorced Girl Nair 25 in Matrimonial, Trivandrum.

m e e t i n g - m a l a y a l a m - g i r l s - o f f l i n e BEACHES AT TRIVANDRUM ARE PRETTY FUN AND FULL OF WOMEN, AS IS VARKALA BEACH. But that could be a misconception. Nahawna Afooa blogs: "Apparently the saying goes: Expats cry twice - once when they are told they have to go to Bangladesh and once when they have to leave. Why? Because Bangladesh is considered the bottom rung of locations to do development work in the world. Africa is at the top, BD at the bottom. This is what I've learned from all the yearning to go to Africa I've heard from the Aid workers here. "Now why do they hate to leave? Because of the clubbing, of course. These aren't clubs in the sense that you may be thinking, like say discotec. No, these are Clubs in the most neo-colonial sense of the word: Country Clubs. And you have to be a citizen of the aforementioned country working with purpose in Bangladesh to become a member. Some only allow membership from the diplomatic community, some based on language but all have restrictions on the number of Bangladeshi's that are allowed in at any given time. Heaven's no, they can't become members, they can only be signed in as guests and only a few at a time because one wouldn't want to sully one's reputation. Once you are a member of one club you have access to all the rest. Except, some clubs (read the American Club) think other clubs (read the BAGHA Club - British Aid Workers Guest House Association Club) are too lenient with the locals and have placed extra restrictions on other club's members. "What's so great about these clubs anyway that everyone is vying for a spot at the membership roster? Well the alcohol and the scantily clad women, of course. These are some of the few places that serve alcohol and where foreign women can wear whatever clothes they want. They hold parties with both of the above present as well as music and dancing. Essentially they are an oasis of the west in Bangladesh.." . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . I am with Rakesh on this one: offline is always the best place to meet people, although online can be a good place to nurture your offline contacts and acquiantances. Go to any dating site, and the vast majority of the folk there are men. That is saying something of your chances of scoring online. Odds are much better out in the real world. Then again, I haven't scored that much in either the real or virtual realms, so I am not the best source of info in this respect. One things I do know is that Gujarat is a "dry" state, the only dry state in India -- consumption of booze here is prohibited. As MeriNews writes: "There are no bars or pubs in Gujarat. However, people can have their daily dosage of Vitamin A (alcohol) from some famous bootleggers. You find a bootlegger easily in Gujarat, who would deliver you any brand of whisky, gin or rum at your convenient time and place, whether it is at your doorstep or at your farmhouse. These bootleggers make loads of money and are never short of cash. People pay them whatever they ask for. Interestingly, even they have peak and off seasons. During the marriage season, elections, Dipawali they almost charge you double the rate. Otherwise, they charge you the normal printed rates. The biggies of this whole affair have their own personal cars. I wonder what is mixed inside the bottles as it is not possible to make such chunks of money in such a short time..." . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .

m a l a y a l a m - m o v i e s s EXPLORING THE BANGLA BLOGOSPHERE, HERE WE GO... . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . South Dreamz: An Ultimate South Indian Entertainment Hub. Including galleries of Malayalam actresses and models.

b e n g a l i - w e d d i n g - r e s o u r c e s WHILE INDIA HAS BECOME FAMOUS IN RECENT YEARS FOR ITS FLAMBOYANT WEDDINGS, WEDDING CUSTOMS VARY CONSIDERABLY ACROSS THE COUNTRY. The Indian International Student Organization claims that "Gujaratis believe that after marriage, the wife becomes her husband's sahdharmacharini or equal. With marriage comes responsibility and power. In fact, it is the wife who must keep house and look after all the household requirements..." Bengali Culture: "The vivid picture of the kitchen in medieval Bengali literature (is) collected in Mangal Kavyas. A woman's culinary activity makes her a participant in the sacrificial aspect in which cooking is closely connected to religion. Preparation of a meal is also linked to Karma (desire). A young woman must study the rules of culinary erotica and develop them into an art to win over husband's attention -- a universal feminine strategy. The best role model for a Bengali woman is Draupadi as it is believed that she used to keep all her five husbands happy and none used to return from her kitchen hungry." The wedding menu in Bengali household are almost the same selection of dishes. Fish cutlet / Vegetable cutlet (crumbed and deep fried) Radhaballavi Alur dam / Cholar dal narkel diya Fried rice (steamed rice with vegetables and nuts in ghee) Macher Kalia Kassa Mangsho Chutney Mishti doi / Rosagulla Paan "In an Arya Samaji wedding, the couple take seven pheras. The groom leads for the first four pheras. After this, he walks behind the bride, who leads the last three pheras, thus signifying that the wife will always lead the husband. "In a Sindhi wedding ceremony, the groom leads the first three rounds while the bride leads the fourth. "However, every Hindu wedding has at least four pheras. These pheras signify the four main aims of life: Dharma, Artha, Kama and Moksha..." Yoni: This indicates the intimacy between the partners in their private life. Raasi: This indicates the birth (progeny) and luck to have children. Raasi Adhipathi: This indicates more generations in their life. Vashiyam: This indicate the intimacy level between the partners in general life and misunderstanding between them. Rajju: This indicates the longevity of partners and losing partner within short time. Vedhai: This indicates elimination of sorrow/bad patch in life. Want to recommend a good place to meet Bengali girls in West Bengal or Bangladesh or Kolkata or Dubai or Australia or wherever you live now? Go here for the comments: View Comments Post Comments Contact the author Rob Sullivan at coderot@gmail.com. Anticopyright August 2010.