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WHAT'S HAPPENING IN CHITTAGONG RIGHT NOW, ARE THERE ANY PARTIES COMING UP, ANY CLUB OR RAVE EVENTS? What are the marriage media where you are most likely to find a partner, and how do they compare? Where do people in Bangladesh like to go on dates? These are the questions this website is trying to answer. On or offline, if you want to meet Chittagong men or women, then this site this is your magnet. According to one rather catty woman I encountered third hand on the Internet:

It's like a perpetual come hither look on their face. And this woman got that so perfectly -- her champagne voice, the quiet drawl, the swing of the hips. Yikes! And to think men are suckers for that kind of crap!"

Located not so far from Chittagong, Cox's Bazaar boasts the world's longest natural sandy beach (it may well be the one I spied on a flight from Kathmandu to Bangkok in 2001, on my way back to Japan where I was living at the time.)
Suckers or not, this seems to be a common perception in India and Bangladesh and the rest of the world. Hottie Hottie Bong Bong says: "From more than one non-Bengali friend, I have heard this 'Bong babes are hot' refrain -- I remember watching 'Aye Uri Uri' from Saathiya amidst a crowd of desis at Stonybrook when a guy from UP, no doubt inspired by Rani Mukherjee's bedroom antics with Vivek Oberoi, whispered to me (without any come-hither arching of his back may I add) that:
"'Dada, I have to hand it to you. Bengali girls are the BEST.'
"I sighed. Growing up in Calcutta, we had a similar fascination for Punjabi girls -- according to urban legend, Punjabi girls had figures to die for, knew the art of seduction, had malleable morals and in general never said 'no' to anything..."

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Hottie Hottie Bong Bong goes on to state: "Bengali girls cannot generically be considered as experts in the art of making men mad with lust. It's only girls who come from specific backgrounds, who attended specific educational institutions and who have similar-minded friends that satisfy, to a certain extent, the stereotype. And I suspect that girls from other parts of India, who fit into the same cultural-moral-educational context, are equally Bong-ish.
"However there is another grain of truth in the statement of the blogger above. Bengali girls from outside Kolkata, called Probasi Bengalis, are very different, by and large from the Kolkata Bengali girl. Without resorting to simplifying generalizations, my immense experience (yeah right !) dealing with both these tribes lead me to conclude that Probasi Bengalis are far more conservative (not politically of course -- this conservatism is in reference to issues guys really care about) than their Kolkata sisters."
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Zimbio reports: "The main difference between bangladeshi grils and bengali girls is bangladeshi girls like shaloyar kamiz, besides bengali girls like t-shirt and jeans . Now a days bangladeshi girls are trying to improve their food habit , fashion , jewellery and trying to be more stylist..."

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It is not just the Bengali women who are considered hot -- the men are judged to be pretty attractive too. In fact, Bengali men from Bangladesh have been banned from Malaysia because they are just too damned sexy! The Bangla Community reports: "Bangladeshi workers were banned from Malaysia two years ago, mainly because they were creating 'social problems' by entering into romantic liaisons with local women, said Saiful Islam, a spokesman for Radzi.
"The New Straits Times quoted the Bangladesh home affairs minister Radzi Sheikh Ahmad as saying on Sunday that the Bangladeshis come as students, only to work in low-paid menial jobs in the country, which has a severe labour shortage because rising economic prosperity has provided many Malaysians with white-collar jobs.
"Islam said that they were found to have harassed young women and eloped with married women, who apparently succumbed to their good looks and charms.
"On Sunday, Radzi said Bangladeshi men look like Indian movie stars.
"Most of the men, aged between 25 and 30, were recorded as studying English, he said.
"'This is really fishy. The age bracket is suitable for employment. Bangladesh is an English-speaking country and it makes little sense for them to study English here,' Radzi was quoted as saying. 'The abuse is glaring because Bangladeshis are not allowed to work here, but we can see hundreds working in construction sites and restaurants.'
"Radzi said most were brought by agents who made deals with colleges to bring in the workers as students, then place them for employment.
"He said his ministry was taking the necessary action to curb the practice. 'I can assure you there are thousands of them. Of course, Malaysia is striving to be an education hub but abuse of provisions is something that cannot he tolerated," he said...
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As all folks should be aware, the Bengali people are a divided people -- one of the victims of Partition. Like the Bataks of Indonesia, the Bengalis are a race of two faiths -- in their case, Hinduism and Islam. Partition split the Bengalis into two nations: Muslim Bangladesh and Hindu India (West Bengal State). There are also considerable number of Bengalis in Burma (the Rohingya people) and the Gulf States (notably Saudi Arabia). Speaking of the Rohingya people of Burma, The Cutting Edge News reported: "The Rohingya people are ethnically and culturally closely related to the Bengali people in the area surrounding Chittagong, but have lived in Burma for generations. While their precise history may be debated, there is no doubt that they are not newcomers to the country. Yet unlike all the other ethnic groups in Burma, which although severely persecuted by the regime are at least recognised as citizens, the Rohingyas are regarded as 'temporary residents' and denied full citizenship status. They are required to obtain permission before marrying, and a permit can take several years to secure. Movement is severely restricted ERohingyas must obtain permission to travel even from one village to another, impeding access to medical care and education. As 'non-citizens', Rohingyas cannot be employed as teachers, nurses, civil servants or in any public service, and in Rohingya areas teachers, mostly from the Buddhist Rakhine ethnic group, sometimes fail to turn up for an entire year, disrupting educational opportunities for the Rohingyas. Rape and forced labour are widespread, and Rohingyas are singled out by the authorities for extortion. Soldiers demand money from them, and when they cannot pay they are arrested and tortured..."
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Absolute Agency: Bangladesh Women.
There is a nice spread of potential hot dates here. Writes one 23-year-old Dhaka woman: "I am marride but husband can't (satisfy me). Last 5 year I have no kid. I want sex satisfyction." Another Dhaka based girl, aged 20, writes: "Hi...Im bri...m looking for a nice long term relationship even marriage. with a very nice and romantic Irish guy...who wudn't mind singing to me in public." Hot_hema, 23, from Dhaka, writes: "i am hot...and ..sexy hema..satisfy me..I will give you heaven..xxx". Rajiaslitu, from Chittagong, writes: "I am a woman, 27 years old, seeking a woman from 20 till 40."
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Bangladesh Marriage Media: On Facebook.
This site claims to be a non-profit organisation, and its aim is to "help people get married and to help save their marriage." The last time I checked this site had 4168 likes, one of them mine. As usual there are a lot of guys hanging out here, but there are some ladies, also. One of them, Sadia, has a love poem posted on her page which concludes: "I will do whatever it takes to have you in my arms forever." I am not sure where she lives though.
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Bangali Bondhu: The First Choice of the Modern Bengalis.
An area for the Bengali teens, youths and everyone to make new friends.
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no cast/race bullshit...just simple straightforward girls may please email me sometime." Amit, 31, height 5ft. 11 inch, writes: "I am looking for a friend (Bandhobi) for a long-term Friendship. I am from West Bengal (KRISHNAGAR , Nadia). My cell number is 9903578623." S. Mukherjee describes himself as: "31 Years ..fair..tall..hansome..Ph.D. in econ...working as Sr. Scientific Officer in Intl. reserach Inst at Hyderabad....looking for Bengali brahmin girl Age (<25) ..willing to settle out of Kolkata ....sincere...educated (at least graduate) ..soothing personality..."
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Bengali Sexy Girls: Priyo.
Photo courtesy Bengali Sexy Girls by Laila Muktha, December 2008

"Back with some sexy photos. looks like, this forum is getting very attractive. please, allow us to post more. we need some place. please...."
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Bengali Singles: Bangladeshi Singles.
This site reads: "Search our photo for hot Bengali Singles, open minded easy Bangladeshi Singles women, someone special, cute attractive and sexy Bengali Singles, or search for cool sexy Bangladeshi Singles who share your interests, or even looking for love. Listed on this website are the latest Bengali Singles, from Bangladeshi Singles within driving distance of Bangladesh looking to chat with you."
Features include personal media gallery (audio, video, photo albums, etc), personal blog, friends list, guestbook, ShoutBox, block member capability, and Messenger with storage system. Membership is free.
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Desh Forum: Love & Friendship.
Not really a place to pick up, more of a discussion board about matters of the heart. Topics under discussion could include "how to get revenge on your ex-boyfriend" or "how to make your man more romantic".
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Jojajog: Bengali Matrimonial Service Managed by Bengali People.
Coming at you from Kolkata -- "As a Bengali we understand the culture, taste and other pure bengali factors which is very essential for successful matchmaking," the site claims. Membership costs Rs. 1250 for a six month package. You can find plenty of prospective Bengali brides and grooms here. Writes one woman on her spiel: "Am a Slim, pretty,homely Brahmin girl of 28 years living in my maternal uncle's home in Kolkata. My hometown is Rampurhat, where my parents live.
"My father is a retired employee of W.B.State Electricity Board. My elder maternal uncle was the Departmental Head of Indian Institute of the Cultivation of Sciences. My youngest uncle was the Media director of renowned advertising Agency. My mother is a housewife.
"I love reading and i am trained in Classical Dance. My horoscope details: Dhanu Rashi, Mithun Lagna, Debari Gon, Batsya Gotra..."
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Setu Bandhan: Chittagong Personals.
There are a decent number of Bangladeshi women on this site, some of them from Chittagong, and many of them with portraits posted. One girl on Setu Bandhan, Sumi26272833 (I'm not sure if she is from Chittagong, but whatever), wrote beneath her alluring image: "look at me. can i be only for u?" To which someone replied: "hi sumi 26272833, tumi ki chao, prem bhalobasa na biye kore songsari hote ? ami ki bhabe tomar sathe jogajog korbo. ami ekjon udar moner manush. looking for that girl je amake pagoler moto bhalobasbe. hayat "
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Somewhere In... Blog: World's Largest Bangla Blog Community.
The last time I visited here (January 2012) there were 293 bloggers and 823 visitors online, 49 of the bloggers using their mobile phones to access the site. One feature of Somewhere In is a phonetic keyboard which makes it easy to write and publish Bangla script. Blogging might be an unusual avenue for finding a date or mate, but God willing, I'm sure it is possible! We had our first communication on 9 Nov '08 and within few days the proposals were taken formally. On 22 Dec '08 we got married. Our families are happy & satisfied on this relationship." Medina from London wrote: "Assalamoualaikoum, Jazzaak Allah khair, Alhmdullilah, I've met somebody on this site just after 5 days of registering.. We're getting on well Alhamdullilah, InshaAllah we're planning to get married soon after new year. Thank you all very much, Keep up all the good job. May Allah bless u all brothers and sisters..."
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Topix: Bangladeshi Married Girl Mobile Number.
Topix is an upfront and often raucous portal packed with forums about any subject you could think of, including love (and its demonic twin, lust). On forums such as this one, swarms of Indians, Bangladeshi's, Sri Lankans and the like have posted their emails, Facebook profiles and even phone numbers in the hope of hooking up. The OP, a Chaity (from Europe), initiated the forum with this remark: "Ami chaity.amer anek sex.joubon er jala metate pari na.call me 01913178630." That was back in October 2011. A certain Innocent boy 01913295474, also in Europe, posted the quick reply: "If u r real cal me i give u gu satisfection." This is how people hook up on Topix, in the 21st Century!
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Bengali Baby Names: Bengali Baby Names.
Find a good name for your baby.
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Picture courtesy 2005 World Trip

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BASED IN DHAKA IS THE LAGON MARRIAGE MEDIA. The agency aims at helping women finding bride-grooms in such professions as engineer, doctor, MBA: "Apparently the saying goes: Expats cry twice - once when they are told they have to go to Bangladesh and once when they have to leave. Why? Because Bangladesh is considered the bottom rung of locations to do development work in the world. Africa is at the top, BD at the bottom. This is what I've learned from all the yearning to go to Africa I've heard from the Aid workers here.
Chittagong University is a good place to meet girls, I presume. Because of the clubbing, of course. These aren't clubs in the sense that you may be thinking, like say discotec. No, these are Clubs in the most neo-colonial sense of the word: Country Clubs. And you have to be a citizen of the aforementioned country working with purpose in Bangladesh to become a member. Some only allow membership from the diplomatic community, some based on language but all have restrictions on the number of Bangladeshi's that are allowed in at any given time. Heaven's no, they can't become members, they can only be signed in as guests and only a few at a time because one wouldn't want to sully one's reputation. Once you are a member of one club you have access to all the rest. Except, some clubs (read the American Club) think other clubs (read the BAGHA Club - British Aid Workers Guest House Association Club) are too lenient with the locals and have placed extra restrictions on other club's members.
"What's so great about these clubs anyway that everyone is vying for a spot at the membership roster? Well the alcohol and the scantily clad women, of course. These are some of the few places that serve alcohol and where foreign women can wear whatever clothes they want. They hold parties with both of the above present as well as music and dancing. Essentially they are an oasis of the west in Bangladesh.."
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Misarai: . Facebook Page: click here.
Supposed to have karaoke. Supporters of the BPL (Bangladesh Premier League). Odds are much better out in the real world. Then again, I haven't scored that much in either the real or virtual realms, so I am not the best source of info in this respect.
These bootleggers make loads of money and are never short of cash. People pay them whatever they ask for. Interestingly, even they have peak and off seasons. During the marriage season, elections, Dipawali they almost charge you double the rate. Otherwise, they charge you the normal printed rates. The biggies of this whole affair have their own personal cars. I wonder what is mixed inside the bottles as it is not possible to make such chunks of money in such a short time..."
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Bengali Baby Names: Bengali Baby Names.
Find a good name for your baby.
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WHILE INDIA HAS BECOME FAMOUS IN RECENT YEARS FOR ITS FLAMBOYANT WEDDINGS, WEDDING CUSTOMS VARY CONSIDERABLY ACROSS THE COUNTRY. The Indian International Student Organization claims that "y and power. In fact, it is the wife who must keep house and look after all the household requirements..."
Bengali Culture: "The vivid picture of the kitchen in medieval Bengali literature (is) collected in Mangal Kavyas. A woman's culinary activity makes her a participant in the sacrificial aspect in which cooking is closely connected to religion. Preparation of a meal is also linked to Karma (desire). A young woman must study the rules of culinary erotica and develop them into an art to win over husband's attention -- a universal feminine strategy. The best role model for a Bengali woman is Draupadi as it is believed that she used to keep all her five husbands happy and none used to return from her kitchen hungry."
The wedding menu in Bengali household are almost the same selection of dishes. Fish cutlet / Vegetable cutlet (crumbed and deep fried) Radhaballavi Alur dam / Cholar dal narkel diya Fried rice (steamed rice with vegetables and nuts in ghee) Macher Kalia Kassa Mangsho Chutney Mishti doi / Rosagulla Paan "In an Arya Samaji wedding, the couple take seven pheras. The groom leads for the first four pheras. After this, he walks behind the bride, who leads the last three pheras, thus signifying that the wife will always lead the husband.
"In a Sindhi wedding ceremony, the groom leads the first three rounds while the bride leads the fourth.
"However, every Hindu wedding has at least four pheras. These pheras signify the four main aims of life: Dharma, Artha, Kama and Moksha..."

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