"In a country where women are not always afforded the same opportunities as men, some women choose to enter the world's oldest profession in an effort to make money to help their family.
"These women attempt to secure their future - and that may mean lining up as many options (read: Western men) as they can, failing to disclose other relationships they may already be involved in or be less honest about their intentions with the man they're with. They may go on to choose one man who they feel can provide best for them, or they may simply try and make as much money as they can. Many of the women working in the bars already have a Thai boyfriend or husband. They may say that they do not like Thai men but that is often just a ruse to make Western men more comfortable with them.
"These girls do not have an easy life and I do not begrudge them, nor judge them, when they make the ever so hard decision to go and work in the bar industry. That said, the calculated scamming and cheating that goes on, often playing with Western men's lives, is clearly wrong.
"They'll tell you they love you and that you're the only one in their life. This may be true and they may truly love you and worship you as only a Thai woman can. But in many cases this couldn't be further from the truth.
"If you are pursuing a relationship with a Thai bargirl and you suspect that things are not all that they seem, get her checked out before it's too late. Whether you met her in a naughty bar, a not so naughty bar, online, in a shop, on the street, in a massage parlour..."
Nick Gatsby wrote on Expat Rockstar Magazine: "Thai women are renowned the world over for their beauty, grace, femininity, and sexuality. They have that certain something that makes them alluring to men and their diminutive stature makes them doll like, while at the same time, womanly.
"If you are interested in meeting regular Thai women though, where and how do you go about it? When I say regular Thai women, I am referring to those who have a profession outside of the tourist entertainment industry. This means office worker, nurse, grocery clerk, doctor, lawyer, etc.
"There is a degree of difficulty in getting a 'nice' Thai woman to go out with you. For most Thai women, dating a foreigner comes attached with the stigma of other Thais believing your date is a prostitute. This alone is enough to put some women off the task.
"Culture also dictates their actions and if you are successful in getting them to go with you, at first, you may end taking them out, along with one or more of their friends. To play your cards right, abstain from physical contact and any kind or sexual talk - at least until the signs are all there. Refrain from touching her; do not attempt to hold her hand, put your arm around her, or kiss her. If she likes you, she will almost certainly touch you - nonetheless, do not touch her. Thais are not much for public affection and your restraint will likely go a long way..."
I even got approached when I looked lost standing on the side of a canal just down from the Democracy Monument, me all covered with sweat. Now Maniac High has to literally handcuff the schoolgirls in Tokyo to give him the time of day, but in humid Bangkok, you have to beat the Thai schoolgirls off with a stick. All in all, there are countless, endless possibilities in this city, or so it seems to me at the present. But I am indeed a novice when it comes to Thai girls!
Thai Friendly: http://www.thaifriendly.com/.
This site is free, and sees plenty of action, and also (compared to a lot of other dating sites!) has a good ratio of men to women. One girl says: "I'm not a Butterfly lady and I NOT WANT TALK TO thai singles. if you want to talk to me. I want to make sure that you want to be friends maybe relationship." Another woman, Mountain135, describes herself as a hilltribe girl working in a guesthouse in Chiang Rai.
If you can read Thai, look at Zubzip.
Sweet Singles: http://www.sweetsingles.com/join_thai.html.
This site is actually devoted to that most adorable creature, the Thai woman -- and specifically for guys looking for Thai brides. The site is all in Thai, which might be a problem for the average Malaysian reader. Nonetheless, the site includes the prompt: "Foreign ladies, -- "